Not Everyone is AB

It took a weird interaction with a woman (who is clearly not living an anti-blah life) to get me to write a much needed entry. And to also come to terms with the fact that not everyone is anti-blah.

Factoid of the day: sometimes people need to push their own beliefs or thoughts onto others because they aren't really buying what they are saying. Or they aren't really living that way. Or because it makes them feel better to put others down. In any form or fashion - these people are not living an anti-blah life. Which makes me oh so very glad that I am. And so very sad for them because they are not.

When you are truly anti-blah, you come to two really awesome realizations. Number 1 - you can recognize and appreciate other ABers (who try to bring people up, not push them down). And number 2 - you don't have to apologize about what you do, think, or believe.

I am so ridiculously lucky to have met some fabulous people who are (whether they realize it or not), living an anti-blah life - especially during this challenging time in my life. I've thrown myself into this awkward situation. (FYI, I wouldn't have it any other way.) And some of the people I've met (or gotten back in touch with) while on this journey are unbelievable. They live their lives so AB, it's not even funny. And, the true measure of how AB they actually are, is the fact that they have done nothing but go out of their way to be good, kind people. And by go out of their way, I mean go above and beyond. They inspire me to be a better, kinder person. I cannot wait until I am in a situation where I can actually do some of the same things for others.

I do try to bring people up as much as I can, partially because I can't help it. I don't understand people who need to push others down to make themselves feel better. I just don't get it. I cannot do much, but I try to remain positive and meet as many people as possible. You never know what kind of impact you may have on someone else. Just as those people I speak of may not realize the impact they are having on me.

The second thing that is so freakin' cool about living anti-blah (aside from recognizing awesomeness in others) is the fact that when you are really anti-blah, you answer to no one but yourself. You don't have to explain yourself at all. You speak up when needed, but you also don't feel the need to have others believe what you believe to make yourself feel better. It's just so cool.

One of the things that I'm so glad I don't have to apologize for is cutting people out of my life. Sounds harsh, huh? Well, I'm not talking about just anyone. (I have a heart, yo.) I'm talking about those toxic people. The ones that drain all of your energy, and frankly, your AB-self. I've cut a few of those people out (or reduced contact) and I'm happy that I have. Because you know what? That made room for some awesome people! And the very best part of it all...

I DON'T HAVE TO EXPLAIN MYSELF! Yay!!!

If you are a good kind-hearted person that is not putting others down in order to feel better about yourself, no worries! (Not that you were. I'm just sayin'.) I always have room for AB people. ALWAYS. But I don't have room for negativity. NONE.

I have a personal anthem. Lame, right? Eh. I don't think so. It's "Survivor" by Destiny's Child, circa 2001. (Wow! A decade old. Sheesh!) It sounds weird, but it is my anthem. I listen to it often. Sometimes the words will hit me on one of those days and right on the treadmill/elliptical/my desk - I will cry. Not sad tears, but happy ones. Because you know what? I am a survivor. Of many things. (I will not go into here, but just know, I am a survivor.) My reason for mentioning my anthem is because there is a line that I've decided to live my life by:

If I surround myself with positive things, I'll gain prosperity.

True story. This is how I live my life. And, those positive things include positive people. I'm not pretending that everyday is sunshine and rainbows. But, if I am positive and the people I choose to be around are positive, how could I not gain prosperity?!

It does break my heart to think that others haven't realized that being good and surrounding themselves with the positive is actually a better way to live. Luckily, I will continue my anti-blah life and hopefully someone I cross paths with that isn't AB might realize what a wonderful way of life it actually is.